Conflict Avoidance = Transformation Avoidance

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I used to think that I truly enjoyed conflict.  While I was in primary and secondary school, I loved to debate and was quick to jump into a fray.  As I’ve grown older, I’ve abandoned debating (having the desire to win) and started discussing (having the desire to learn).  I’m quick to challenge prevailing wisdom and theology and to seek to get to the Truth.  For me, it’s a socratic excercise that is apart from my feelings and who I am.  It’s why I used to think I was not conflict averse.

The last several weeks though, I have come into the realization that I am completely and utterly conflict adverse if the conflict has to do with interpersonal relationships or who I am.  It’s why I don’t speed when I drive.  Avoid breaking rules.  Hate getting into trouble no matter how minor it is.  And choose to ignore conflict instead of resolving it.  Real conflict exhausts me.  I don’t want to hurt or be hurt, so I pretend it doesn’t exist. 

I’m happy to change what I think–in fact I love for people to show me where I am academically wrong as it means I can be correct tomorrow.  However, I am not excited about changing who I am. I avoid conflict when it means that I might actually have to change what I do–become less selfish, love on another person’s terms, do something I find boring or banal.  Changing one’s position theologically takes mere moments and comes at little cost.  Changing how one lives takes time, long, arduous time.  It’s costly and it hurts–the Refiner’s fire is always uncomfortable.  Conflict requires me to contemplate the fact that I am not who I desire to be, that I am broken, sinful, and imperfect.  However, it is the only route to growth and holiness.

We live in community so that we can grow and become more like Christ.  Growth often, if not always, requires conflict. It’s why we have a committment to not only resolve conflict, but to acknowledge it when it exists.  It’s the thing I find hardest in community.  I love being surrounded by people 24-7–serving them and sharing the gospel.  I am easy-going and love sharing hospitality and bearing joy.  I enjoy listening to other’s problems and binding up their wounds.  I am made for community and so much of it comes completely and utterly naturally for me–it seldom if ever feels like a sacrifice.  And what a blessing that is!  The thing is, it means that I can so often ignore the fact that I am broken, selfish, and sinful; that I need to grow, need to learn, need to sacrifice, and need to change.  That I, too, am in need of the Spirit’s transformation.

Speaking of Faith > The New Monastics

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The New Monastics

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Artist: Speaking of Faith

Duration: Appx 58 min

Created: Thu, 10 May 2007

Category: Speech

Subject: Shane Claiborne

Interviewer: Krista Tippett

NPR’s show Speaking of Faith this week explores New Monasticism in an interview with Shane Claiborne.

Christian PEACE Witness

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As I’m sure many of you know, on Friday, March 16, 2007 Christians will be gathering across the country to protest the War in Iraq. Some friends and I plan to attend wearing t-shirts (recycled of course) emblazoned with “Blame Me for War,” as we agree with Jacques Ellul when he wrote:

If the time comes when despair sees violence as the only possible way, it is because Christians were not what they should have been. If violence is unleashed anywhere at all, the Christians are always to blame. This is the criterion, as it were, of the confession of sin. Always, it is because Christians have not been concerned for the poor, have not defended the cause of the poor before the powerful, have not unswervingly fought the fight for justice, that violence breaks out.

A friend sent me an e-mail with the Alternative Allegiance Version of the Christian PEACE Witness for Iraq document. I think it does a much better job of expressing the point that we as Christians must first take responsibility instead of blaming the American government. The first 4 pages are the revised version and the next 2 are the original. I posted it on my webspace at http://www.mattpritchard.com/CPWalt.pdf.

What do you all think?

Irresistible Revolution Audio Book

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The Irresistible Revolution: Living as an Ordinary Radical

Rating: 5 out of 5

Author: Shane Claiborne

Year: 2006

Publisher: Zondervan

ISBN: 0310266300

Blame Me, Matt Pritchard, for War, Poverty, Hatred, and Suffering!

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Freedom from Fear

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A friend in my “Theology of Resistance” class at UVa (which I\\\’ve unfortunately missed the last couple of weeks) is part of an initiative called Freedom from Fear. It\\\’s something I\\\’ve written about before, so I won\\\’t belabor the point, but I really like the vision.

One of their sayings is, “Blame Me for War.” (They use it with the italicized excerpt from the quote below.) Wow! The Church is God\\\’s chosen mechanism for the continual redemption of the world. And as such, we as Christians are uniquely, particularly, and peculiarly equipped to address the hurts of this world. When we fail to do so, we should expect sickness, violence, and suffering to erupt all around us and around our world. We, like doctors who proclaim the sickness and fail to medicate, are responsible for the pain and the lack of healing in our world when we hold the cure and choose to do nothing. There are no substitutes for the Church\\\’s active love of people–not political justice, not just war, not charity, not governmental programs, not morality.

As such, I, personally and as part of the Church, am responsible for the hurt of so many people. It is a failure that I must mourn, repent of, and seek to remedy. If you want someone to blame, blame me, for I am guilty. I possess the elixir and so often fail to use it.

Now certainly, even if we love boldly, care for the poor, live our lives as sacrifices for others, there will still be sin, both personally and corporate, both inside the Church and in the world. We will fail to love people perfectly and people, including ourselves, will make evil choices even given the opportunity to make Godly ones. We will fall short of perfection, but we should not be dismayed, we worship a God who sent His son to redeem a broken world, and who has sent His Holy Spirit as a guide for the Church in His continual action in the world. We must get back up and continue to proclaim our Master as we manifest the Kingdom with our lives.

It is in this context that I ask the question: What would the world look like if we as Christians took seriously the call of Christ to dedicate and sacrifice ourselves in loving the world–the unlovable, the hurting, the enemy in our midst?

In 1968 Jacques Ellul wrote the following three paragraphs:

“One thing, however, is sure: unless Christians fulfill their prophetic role, unless they become the advocates and defenders of the truly poor, witness to their misery, then, infallibly, violence will suddenly break out. In one way or other ‘their blood cries to heaven,’ and violence will seem the only way out. It will be too late to try to calm them and create harmony. Martin Luther King probably came ten years too late for the black Americans; the roots of violence had already gone deep. So, instead of listening to the fomenters of violence, Christians ought to repent for having been too late. For if the time comes when despair sees violence as the only possible way, it is because Christians were not what they should have been. If violence is unleashed anywhere at all, the Christians are always to blame. This is the criterion, as it were, of the confession of sin. Always, it is because Christians have not been concerned for the poor, have not defended the cause of the poor before the powerful, have not unswervingly fought the fight for justice, that violence breaks out. Once violence is there, it is too late. And then Christians cannot try to redeem themselves and soothe their conscience by participating in violence.”

“But now let me give a warning. If the Christian cannot demand, cannot even suggest, that nonChristians should act as though they were inspired by the Christian faith, he must take the same attitude toward the revolutionaries and toward the state. To demand that a non-Christian state should refrain from using violence is hypocrisy of the worst sort; for the Christian’s position derives from the faith, and moreover he exercises no responsible political function. To ask a government not to use the police when revolutionary trouble is afoot, or not to use the army when the international situation is dangerous, is to ask the state to commit hara-kari. A state responsible for maintaining order and defending the nation cannot accede to such a request. The intellectuals can play the game on their own terms; they hold no political office, they are outsiders; so it is easy for them with their high principles to decide what should be done. Christian honesty and Christian humility would prompt the question: ‘If I really were in that official’s position, what would I risk doing?’ And it is a well-known fact that the very intellectuals who criticize power so violently do no better than others once they themselves have arrived in places of power.”

“In the face of a non-Christian state, all the Christian can do is — not read it a moral lecture, not rail at it and demand the impossible; not these things. All the Christian can do is to remind the state that, though it be secularized and its officials be atheists, it and they are nevertheless servants of the Lord. Whether they know it or not, whether they like it or not, they are servants of the Lord — for the good. And they will have to render account to the Lord for the way they did their service. Obviously the Christian’s task is not a very pleasant one. He is ridiculed, he is isolated from other political movements; he cannot howl with the wolves!”

Within My Right

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I was at the Urban Prayer Breakfast this morning and had a long conversation with one of my friends, Shawn. Shawn is about my age and I always look forward to seeing him. He has a severe speech impediment (I think do to a brain injury of some sort). Today, he told me about his cousin who was murdered in the street last week. He related how he was a great guy and how his immediate family had reacted at the funeral. He also said that they didn’t know who did it and none of the witnesses were talking. He wanted to know who it was that killed him so that he could return the favor.

This cycle of revenge is age old. In fact, it’s a simple reality for most of the world, from the internal fighting in Iraq and Sudan to the age old battle between the sons of Ishmael and the sons of Isaac (hear an exegesis on this from my friend Tripp Sanders at http://www.newcity.org/audios/sermons/2006-07-09.mp3).

To be honest, often reprisals seem to me as just and right. Why should my friend not take the life of the man who’d taken the life of his family member. “An eye for an eye.”

Christ calls us to another way and I actually don’t think it’s because revenge is wrong or not within our right. As is often the case, Christ calls us from what is within our right to what is obedient. This sacrifice, this forfeiture encompasses much of the lesson of the Gospel.

His call does not stop with do not revenge, but continues with turn the other cheek and love your enemy. How would the world be different if we took His calling seriously?

Christ substituted His life for ours, and in that vain He bids us to sacrifice our lives for Him.

For some Christian Peacemakers this means volunteering to trade themselves with hostages seeking to incarnate the life and death of Christ. Many folks find this practice at best odd and ridiculous and at worse stupid and offensive. They fail to see even the practical implication that these Christian Peacemakers know our Savior while the hostages may or may not. What’s more, what a loud and resounding statement about Christ, that someone would give their life for someone who they don’t know and who may not even deserve it!

I’m inclined to agree that it is ridiculous, but certainly no more ridiculous than the creator of the universe leaving heaven to be mocked and murdered by His own creation. Christ will use the ridiculous to thwart the plans of the wise of this world for “greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13 NIV).

The Irresistible Revolution

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The Irresistible Revolution: Living as an Ordinary Radical

Rating: 5 out of 5

Author: Shane Claiborne

Year: 2006

Publisher: Zondervan

ISBN: 0310266300

As I have traveled the country talking with fellow 20-somethings, it has been clear that God is speaking to us in a united voice, however it has been difficult to find the words that correspond with this calling. Shane Claiborne artfully articulates what so many in our generation are hearing. A theologian who truly lives out the Call, he challenges the Church with exceptional love and truth.

The only negative is that in chapter 11, I felt he crossed the line from solidarity with the poor and oppressed to political action. At any rate, it’s a difficult path to navigate and Claiborne does it exceptionally (both in his writing and life)!

I have given away over 150 copies. A must read!