Formal Prayer
A God Who Speaks, Being the Church, Commentary September 4th, 2007It’s funny how quickly I revert back into the institutional function. It’s something I’m going to have to be mindful of—a lot. There was a little snafu in the middle of Sunday’s worship where I said I would pray and the woman who was sharing her story (she did such a great job!) thought I was asking her to pray and a look of dread came over her. I cleared it up that I was planning to pray.
At the end, she and I talked about how hard it is for her to pray out loud (something I’ve heard from many people before). She added that I pray so well. I told her that one of my friends has often challenged me, “do you talk to anyone in the manner that you pray out loud.” The truth is I don’t. I use stilted flourishes, not to mention a different voice.
For a little while in high school I sang in the church choir. We would pray at the beginning of each rehearsal and I remember always looking forward to hearing Ms. C pray. Unlike anyone I’d known to that point, she truly prayed to “Daddy.” Her prayers were simple, intimate, and loving, but at the same time, there was no confusing the awe and revere she had for her Father.
When I pray religious prayers, I enforce the lie that God desires prayers that are formal and articulate rather than personal and sincere. My actions tell people that they are unable to pray. For shame! When I pray formally it is certainly not for God, rather for show and the institution. I need to pray simply, intimately, lovingly, personally, and sincerely—he’s my Dad after all—so that others may know that they are able to talk with Him as well.

September 5th, 2007 at 10:25 am
Lately, I have tried to observe how I refer to God as I am praying. For the longest time, it has been ‘Lord’. While I truly believe that God is Lord and deserving of our fear and respect, I have found that referring to him as such puts up a wall. It is almost as if I am entering the King’s hall and putting forth my small requests and praises. To counter this, I am trying to force myself to talk to my father; I have found a renewed intimacy by talking to my true father as a son. There is still respect (as any son should have for his father), but familiarity, as well.